Dear Readers,
Life has a way of surprising us when we least expect it, sending a ripple through what once felt steady and sure. This week’s letter speaks to those moments when our hearts pull us in an unforeseen direction, stirring up questions we never thought we’d have to ask.
Attraction can be more than a spark; it can be a mirror, reflecting what we long for or have forgotten within ourselves. In this exploration, we’re reminded to embrace the discomfort of the unknown and use it as an opportunity to uncover deeper truths about who we are and what we need.
In everything we trust,
Sylvia
Questions
Q
I am a married woman, without children—happily—and have never thought about leaving my husband. Recently, I met someone who changed everything. I felt immediately attracted to him and have not been able to stop thinking about him since. I’m confused and overwhelmed by the experience and do not know what I am supposed to do. Any suggestions?
A
Consider yourself lucky. What would life be without some heartbreak, heart-wrenching, heartstrings pulling in unexpected ways? The heart is a compass and a teacher. This is a moment not to make any decisions or conclusions—it is a moment to listen. Sit in front of your altar and light a candle to signal to spirit the importance of this moment and your awareness that it is here to teach you through the impeccable movement of your heart. Where is it moving, and why?
Imagine that this man is a muse, a source of inspiration for who you are and who you are becoming. It is more important to understand what is being yearned for beyond this man. Is it a part of you that is repressed right now? Is it a creative part that you aren’t expressing? Is there a voice in you that cannot be freely spoken in the confines of your current life?
Often, it is not our partners who are confining or controlling us; it is the agreements we have made with those partners—usually unspoken ones. An example of an unspoken agreement is when one partner makes the other feel safe, usually economically, in return for some conformity or control. Control and conformity will always be intolerable long-term for the soul, and meeting a heart-igniting soul so suddenly can be a wake-up call that such an agreement no longer works.
While you sit at the altar, reflect on what you are yearning for or wanting to break. Explore why it was even possible for such an attraction to come “out of nowhere.” Be ruthlessly honest. Trust yourself.
When you can start to articulate what it is you truly yearn for, invite your husband to join you at your altar. One of the most important spiritual concepts is “energetic hygiene.” This means it is important to be clear in our relationships before making any new ones. You do not know what is possible in this relationship until you express what is not being met—what is being yearned for—with your current partner. Which agreements between you are asking to be shifted? Is your partner open?
I often enjoy listening to Eckhart Tolle, and in a recent talk, he explained that most ways we enter relationships are destined to end. Why? If we are primarily with someone because of physical attraction, that eventually fades. If we are with someone because of emotional attachment, even that can often come to an end.
Because we are here to wake up and know ourselves, the relationships that have a spiritual foundation and base are the ones that tend to last the longest, as they support our awakening. Other types of relationships can sometimes strangle our awakening—at least eventually.
That is why the first and most important step is to listen deeply to what your soul is craving. Is it a deeper awakening of some kind? The second is to invite your husband into that journey. Maybe he, too, is hungry to take that next step into spirit together.
And if not, find the way that is most respectful and energetically impeccable to make the changes your soul is asking you to make.
Good luck!
