Dear Readers,
There comes a moment for every strong soul when the old ways of being no longer hold. The one who carried others must now learn to be carried. The one who gave without end must now open their hands to receive.
Today, we walk together into this sacred unraveling — and the quiet rebirth waiting inside it.
Let’s begin.
In everything we trust,
Sylvia
Questions
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I’ve always been the rock for my family, but now I’m the one falling apart. I recently lost my job, and I feel like I lost my sense of purpose along with it. How do I find my footing again when I’m so used to being the one everyone leans on?
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There is a saying in Kabbalah: “to receive to give.” This is considered one of the highest expressions of consciousness.
In my interpretation, it teaches the importance of receiving. If you only give, there is an imbalance of energy. Think of a battery, which only works because of two opposite magnetic poles. Similarly, to be at your optimal energy levels and in balance, it is essential to practice both giving and receiving.
Sometimes, when we only give—when we are the one everyone leans on—we think we are in a position of strength, able to offer more than others can. It can take years, even decades, to see the impact of operating this way.
Now, some people who are highly evolved can give more than others without becoming depleted—but that is because they are receiving so much from consciousness itself.
This moment could be offering you an opportunity to unplug from a way of being that is not optimally serving you. Let us investigate together.
Start by asking for what you need right now. It can be something small, even seemingly insignificant—but ask. It is powerful for a family when these roles shift and we get to try on new ways of being together. Give your family the opportunity to step into a new role for you.
I am curious about your feeling that you have lost your sense of purpose. Perhaps what you are really expressing is a loss of confidence in your purpose itself.
This is a powerful moment to turn directly toward this question, “What is my life purpose?” Ask this question deeply and diligently. Watch as more superficial answers appear and disappear, and wait patiently for an answer that carries with it a tenor of depth within you.
It might surprise you. The work that lies ahead may not resemble the work you have done in the past, or the job you were recently let go from.
What will work look like for you moving forward, and how will it align with your life purpose? You will find your footing by sitting quietly with yourself and listening to the teaching that is painfully pressing you to be heard.
The main teaching here is the acknowledgment of the present moment—a full acceptance of what is, with no resistance.
In that acceptance, the depth of your consciousness will expand. From that expanded awareness, try on these questions of life purpose—of what your holy work is—and wait for it to reveal itself to you, like a vision.
You can trust the vision when it arises from the quietest part of your soul.
The second teaching is to receive. Let those who lean on you find their own spine in this moment—to discover their strength and extend to you the most intimate and supportive embrace to hold you while you fall apart.
Holy falling apart, I salute the Phoenix in you that will rise again.
