Dear Readers,
Change has a way of unsettling even the most courageous among us. It strips away what we once relied on, leaving us exposed—uncertain, yet strangely free. This week’s letter is for those standing in that in-between space, where the past lingers in doubts and the future hasn’t quite revealed itself.
Trusting yourself after upheaval isn’t about having all the answers—it’s about learning to listen. In sharing my own experience, I hope to offer a light in the fog, a reminder that even in uncertainty, you are finding your way.
In everything we trust,
Sylvia
Questions
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One of the things I admire in you most is your transition from married in comfort to uncomfortably dissolving that union. You survived and thrived. I am in transition now out of a marriage and in a new state, and feel completely upside down without direction but happy in my freedom. How can I lean into trusting any of my instincts when I worry about my past choices constantly? Can you suggest anything at all that empowered you during your time of feeling unsure?
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Sister, I hear your prayer.
Sometimes we avoid relationships. Sometimes we avoid stability. And sometimes, it’s the right thing to leave. At its core, this is a question of truth. Like most of our deepest questions, it points in the direction of truth and of your soul.
Only you can truly discern whether you’re avoiding—avoiding connection and depth—or if your soul is choosing the depth within you, calling you to move on.
Relationships serve our awakening in many ways. But they also serve stability and the rhythm of ordinary life. It’s important to know where you are in that cycle and what you truly want for your life right now.
Soul to soul—I can feel that your contract is about awakening. I feel it in every word of your letter, in the yearning of your heart. And I honor that.
So my only suggestion to you is what worked for me: prayer and therapy. Both. The prayer to be guided, and the therapy to understand where I had conditioning or habits that didn’t serve truth. It was the combination of both.
What ultimately empowered me in my transition through divorce was a sense of inevitability. It felt like an ocean sweeping me in another direction—something I couldn’t stop, even if I wanted to. And in that moment, I truly found prayer.
And the prayer was simple: Thy will be done.
Relationships are instruments of awakening. And in my case, it was a true path being forged ahead.
I wish you well. Many blessings and love.
